No. Mediators do not tell parties what to do. They do not judge who is right or wrong, nor do they impose a settlement or solution.
Yes! The vast majority of our clients reach agreement, with most of these reaching full agreements on all the issues they wanted to discuss.
Divorce or separation is never easy, but Sussex Peaceful Solutions can really help you to make it easier. Each couple or family situation is different. We never forget that you are the experts about your family and your situation and we will help you find the right solutions for both you and your children. You are the ones who make the decisions and, in reaching mutually agreed solutions, you and all the family will be in the best possible position to move forward.
Contact us for further information or request an appointment to talk to a mediator.
1) 15 Minute Free Telephone Consultation - Please feel free to ring for an informal discussion about your situation. You book this online for a times that suits you, using the button to your right.
In cases where the other party has yet to agree to mediation, we offer a unique service in which we will write to them and follow up with a call to talk about what mediation has to offer.
2) An Initial Assessment Meeting (MIAM) with a mediator for approximately an hour is £95.00 - This meeting will give you an opportunity to talk in confidence about what has been happening and what you would like to achieve.
3) A Joint Meeting with both parties is £150.00 - This meeting is where you both discuss what has happened from both points of view and draft options that you will work for you both. This can last up to two hours.
4) Signing of C100/FM1 Court Form £45.00 - If mediation is deemed unsuitable or the process has started and broken down, then court action may be your only other option. A mediator needs to be satisfied that all options have been explored and will then sign the necessary Court form to enable you to have a hearing. We may also be able to help with you with free legal representation in Court.
5) Letter to other party advising of the benefits of mediation £25.00 - If the other party has yet to agree to mediation we will write to them and explain the benefits of attending mediation. If you wish to begin court proceedings you will need to be able to show that you attempted to engage the other party in mediation.
This letter has a very high success rate in eliciting a response from the other party. Our aim is to bring the other party to mediation and not just for court form signing purposes. We do recognise however that mediation is not suitable in all cases.
This fee is refunded if the other party agrees to mediation.
Mediation is not the same as marriage guidance or relationship counselling. It is a service for couples who are separating, have already separated, or are in the process of divorcing. It helps you discuss and resolve issues arising from the breakdown of your relationship and move forward with your separate lives. Occasionally however, couples do decide to get back together following mediation, perhaps as a result of being able to talk things through.
It is very important that children’s opinions are also heard. This does not affect the parents rights. Children are not permitted to attend the mediation sessions, but have a discussion with a specially trained mediator to hear their perspective, and to help them cope with the current problems in their lives. The child decides what information can be shared back to the parents. Both parents need to agree to the children’s mediation session.
Hopefully, both parties will have reached a resolution to their dispute and have a number of points of agreement. This will be drawn up into a formal agreement and a copy given to both parties (on the same day). We will also recommend that you seek independent financial advice to deal with the monetary issues that may have been agreed. We can help you with this. After the mediation, we will also offer ongoing support for both parties and will check in with you at one and three months following the mediation.
Full details about the mediation process can be found here. (Link to The Family Mediation Process section)
Even if previous attempts at resolution have failed, trained mediators can succeed due to their neutral and professional approach. If your ex fails to turn up, the mediator will write to them to explain the purpose of the mediation. Sometimes your ex may need an initial meeting by themselves to reassure them of the benefits of mediation.
My ex is more persuasive than me. I’m worried that I’ll agree to something I regret later.
Mediators are specially trained to ensure both parties get their full say and are happy with the resulting agreement. They do not take sides, and will not pressure one party to agree to something they are not happy with. If property and financial matters are being discussed, the mediator will recommend each party contact their solicitor for full legal advice before the final agreement is signed.
Our offices are currently based in Brighton, Hove and Lewes but we are looking to expand to other areas of Sussex shortly.
Some clients come to us, already having seen a solicitor and may have been referred to mediation by them. Solicitors should always discuss the possibility of mediation with all their clients. Other clients may not yet have seen a solicitor and may have approached us themselves to start mediation.
Mediators can provide general information about the law and the way the legal system works, but we cannot provide legal advice.
We do always recommend that you discuss any proposals about property with your own solicitor and your finances with an Independent Financial Adviser so that you can be confident that they are fair and reasonable. If you do not have a solicitor we can offer you a list of local Family Law Solicitors. We can also put you in touch with an Independent Financial Adviser because issues such as changing your wills will also need to be addressed.
Solicitors are no longer able to provide Legal Aid for family matters, except in a few special cases, unless you are going through the mediation process.